Every generation is different from the previous one in their characters, and discipline tools that really work. Bringing up children needs patience, as children have delicate hearts that could easily get broken. Children in the stage of character building are like dough that shapes according to how they’re brought up. These are 9 common mistakes parents make bringing up their kids.
Filtration
Dealing with kids’ actions like a magnifier that magnifies mistakes and ignores their little achievements. Filtrating children’s behaviors leads to disappointment for both of the parents and the child and gets children to give up on trying good stuff to impress mums and dads.
Black or White
Acting like there is no happy medium. For example, he’s either quiet or naughty, while it can mean that he is a good boy and likes playing and moving more than other kids.
While dealing with children, one must get down to their level, know their needs, understand that they think different and things sound different from their point of view.
Generalizing
Getting a general impression based on one or two situations. For example, if he is always scared of one or two things, then he is a coward.
Parents should analyze situations and take time before judging their little ones and taking actions.
Exaggeration or Belittling
Making a big deal of tiny mistakes and belittling achievements. This goes hand in hand with filtration.
When it comes to character building and bringing up children, ignoring small mistakes, motivation, and support really matter.
Taking it Personally
Thinking that everything that drives you nuts is intended and that her little one’s only job is to get on your nerves.
Children see things differently. Most of the times when a mum yells her child he can’t figure out why she’s bothered exactly or thinks her reasons are irrational. Kids need us to speak their language to teach them how to live step by step.
Jumping to Conclusions
Thinking that he can’t do it or asking “what if it doesn’t work with him?”. Expecting the worst before it happens. This problem gets parents give up on trying.
I’m Always Right
Expecting that your always right and blaming all challenges on others. For example, it’s my kid that is stubborn, it’s just not the right time or the right circumstances…etc. This will make things take forever to be done and gets you to feel helpless, and always wait for the circumstances to get fixed on their own.
Being Emotional
Is trying to potty train your child for a couple of days makes you think you’re a failure? Do you think your child is boring because he doesn’t communicate with people? Is there something you think is scary just because you’re afraid of it? How you feel about the situation doesn’t necessarily reflect the reality of the matter.
Name Calling
Imaging a conversation between you and a friend about how kids are tiring, disobedient, naughty while the kids are playing around and hear everything you say about them.
Repeatedly calling your child a coward, stubborn, liar, or mean will get him to believe it.
Bringing up children is not an easy task and leads to too much frustration. Looking after children without losing your temper is challenging but it’s worth it. Think of him as a confident, assertive grown-up that you’re proud of and this will get you to never get bored trying with your little ones.
Author
Dr.Abeer
Pharmacist/Mother/ Interested in Child Care and Positive Discipline